He says, Mistress made me a cocksucker. Hear from the Dominant Women who like to turn men into cocksuckers. Are you ready to suck cock for her? You might not have much of a choice about it when she wants you to suck cock!
Welcome to The Weekly Hot Spot: kink conversation, BDSM advice, insight from he worlds of Distance Domination and phone sex. We are your hosts: Mistress Delia and Ms Olivia.
Today’s topic: Mistress Made Me a Cocksucker
Ms Olivia: Hi Ms Delia, has someone called you to talk about a woman who made him a cocksucker?
Ms Delia: Oh my goodness. Absolutely. I talk to a lot of people who have become cocksuckers and so many things go on with them. Yes, yes, yes.
How does he become a cocksucker?
So for example, in the previous podcast we talked about Michael and his cum fetish. Well, one of the reasons why he began sucking cock was he realized that he wasn’t able to produce as much cum as he wanted to eat. Well, so go to the source and he became a cocksucker that way.
Ms Delia: That is really incredible because he needed to satisfy his own craving, but he needed to find more than just himself to provide him with everything that he wanted. And that meant he had to become a cocksucker.
He’s not sure he wants to suck a cock
Ms Olivia: Do you have people that call you who are cock curious and unsure whether or not they want to suck a cock?
Ms Delia: Oh, absolutely. I have so many calls in a day from men who are curious about cock and that want to explore cocksucking. I love helping a man, guiding a man to become a cock sucker. I love training men on calls to suck cock, for sure.
Ms Olivia: A lot of times people call you or me or us or read the blogs and they’re worried about what something means. For example, am I gay f I want to suck cock?
I don’t think so. What do you think?
Ms Delia: I don’t think sucking cock makes someone gay.
What I see in a lot of my calls is men can distance themselves. They’re sucking a cock. They’re not, in their minds, technically with another man because they’re not involved with that man per se. There’s no kissing, there’s no intimacy, there’s nothing shared between the two of them.
It’s almost a perfunctory type of thing. That cock is there. I’m going to suck it and then walk away.
Ms Olivia: And it’s sort of a cock that’s almost like a disembodied cock, right?
When you only want the cock, not the man
Ms Delia: Oh, exactly. So a lot of men who are cocksuckers that I talked to, they don’t associate those cock with the men that those cocks are attached to.
You’re exactly right. I was talking to Michael about this yesterday and I said, why were you nervous about sucking cock?
I told him, “You became a cum eater and you were loving that so much, and I made the suggestion, well, why not? See if you like giving a blow job.”
Here’s what he said, “I really don’t like to admit it, but I had repressed it even to myself.”
Ms Delia: He said it undoubtedly was a little bit of homophobia and the questions that he had about himself: What does it mean if I’m gay? What does it mean if I’m bI sexual.
Then, in his own head, he was answering some of those questions. Wait I can’t be gay because I like girls a lot. You’ve talked to Michael, he’s a great relationship with his girlfriend.
He told me about a conversation he had with you where you said to him, “Is there anything better than dick?” And he went, “Well, maybe pussy.”
Ms Delia: I remember that. I completely agreed with Michael and I think it took him a little bit of time to realize that he did have some curiosities with other men and that that maybe made him bisexual.
He still has the best relationship with his girlfriend and she supports his cock sucking.
Ms Olivia: Absolutely. We’re going to talk a more about that a little bit later in the podcast, but first for the people that are worried about cock sucking another man’s cock, there is self sucking!
He can suck his own cock!
Ms Delia: Mmmmmm, auto fellatio is self sucking and that is one of my personal favorites. It is one of my almost secret kinks. I love the idea that a man can get into a position to suck his own penis. It fascinates me.
Ms Olivia: Tell us a little bit more about that.
Ms Delia: I love the visual of it. If I’m going to watch cock sucking porn, my favorite type would be auto fellatio. The art of the self suck.
In fact, I’ve even given some tips on how to suck your own penis on my blog, Beg for Mistress. Tips like ways that men can breathe or position themselves or move in order to accomplish sucking their own cock.
Because I think we’ve all heard the same joke, right? If a man could suck his own dick, he’d never leave the house. You know what I’m saying? It’s true, isn’t it?
Ms Olivia; ~laughs~ That is true. And if your auto fellatio tips are not the most common reason, the best ad for yoga, I don’t know what is.
Ms Delia: I completely, completely agree and I’ll put a little request out there. If you are a man who can suck your own cock, reach out to me and let me know. I’m so curious.
Ms Olivia: We also do calls on Skype.
Ms Delia: We do, so we can watch him as he is sucking his own cock.
Oh, I get all wet and tingly. Oh my goodness. I cannot even explain how erotic self sucking is to me.
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Getting back to the point of” she made me a cock sucker. Now Ms Delia, he doesn’t have to worry about being bI or gay if she made him a cock sucker. Right?
Ms Delia: Oh that is so true. If a woman encourages you to suck cock, well you couldn’t possibly be gay because she wanted it and you were just sucking cock because that’s what she wanted.
Ms Olivia: Exactly. And I get a lot of emails and a lot of calls about that.
For example, this email: I basically want you to make me confess my cock sucking desires and experiences make me discuss them in detail with you. Oh, and I ask that you not let me cum.
He finishes the email with this: “Whew, my heart is literally pounding just from writing that.”
So just the act of writing about cock sucking and writing about being made to confess is intensely arousing.
Cock curious confession
Ms Delia: Oh, I agree. And maybe that’s why a lot of men speak to us about their cocksucking fantasies because there really is something about that quiet, whispered confession; telling us,”Mistress, I get really hard when I think about sucking cock.” And then having us guide them through that.
Ms Olivia: Or having us use that confession. Then it becomes coerced bi. He might call us and say, “Oh, I’m a little bit curious about sucking cock.” And one of us says, “Oh, really? Tell me a little bit more about that.”
We just keep chatting and he doesn’t even realize that he has done this huge confession. And so at that point it’s like, all right, you’re going to suck cock for me and here’s why. I know you want to do it because you told me you want to suck cock.
Ms Delia: I like to ask, “Don’t you want to try it just a little bit? Come on, let’s think about that. Let’s talk about that. I’m sure you want to try cock sucking just a little bit. You’re thinking about it and I think that is just so highly erotic.”
Ms Olivia: We even have a site that is all about being a coerced cock sucker. It’s called appropriately enough Suck Patrol. It’s absolutely fantastic.
Let’s talk about the stories about the woman who made him a cocksucker.
Where does the desire to suck cock start?
Ms Olivia: The power of erotic stories is just so intense; especially when he comes across something that catches his attention. Stories about sucking cock can spark a new fetish, a new kink or a new curiosity.
I think that’s what erotic stories do: you’re just reading along, cruising through maybe Literotica and you see something and you’re like, Hmm, I wonder what that is, and you begin reading it. Stories like: My wife made me a cocksucker.
Have you seen that to be the case with cocksucking?
Ms Delia: I have seen that to be the case with cock sucking and I really love reading stories on Literotica. They are very erotic and very sexy and they do have a lot of cocksucking stories that have all kinds of twists on them. They’re very interesting.
Ms Olivia: One of the things I love is when he is her submissive and the woman is Dominant, strong, powerful.
It is the power dynamics and power exchange. Although it’s not a typical BDSM power exchange scene, it is still submission to a wife, a Mistress, a Femdom, or a boss. Mistress makes her submissive suck cock.
The woman in control is the common theme in the stories and she tells him to suck cock for her.
So for example, my wife made me suck cock or stories about I am cock sucking for my wife. There are lots of stories about wives who turned their husbands into cocksuckers. Right?
Ms Delia: Absolutely. I even, well, I am a wife, I am a wife to Jack and once in our relationship I actually made Jack suck a cock.
Ms Olivia: Oh, what happened? Did he want to?
Jack sucks cock for Ms Delia
Ms Delia: I think Jack has always had a curiosity about cocksucking, but much like Michael, he’s had a little homophobia. He’s never really been that into it, but it’s one of those hot buttons, one of those sexy triggers.
We were on vacation and that vacation was part of a kink convention. There were a lot of kinky friends that were hanging out.
And I took him to an adult bookstore and I had arranged this with some friends that I was pretty close to, kink friends who are also at the convention.
And wow. I brought him to the booths and I had arranged for a man to be there and he sucked a cock for me. Jack sucked a cock and it was so intense that he actually came from the act of sucking a cock.
Ms Olivia: I’ve got to ask was he masturbating while he was sucking the cock or did he cum without touching?
Ms Delia: He came without touching. It was a hands free orgasm.
Ms Olivia makes her man suck cock
Ms Olivia: That’s exactly what happened to me. So I’m with this guy and he was a little bit cock curious, but he didn’t want to really say anything. He didn’t want to admit it.
You and I, we talk about sex all the time, right? So we know what questions to ask and we remember things.
I set him up with someone. We invited the guy over, he’s standing in the middle of the living room and my boyfriend was on his knees sucking his cock. First time he’d ever touched another cock. First time he’d ever sucked another cock. He came. Same thing as Jack ; it was a hands-free orgasm.
Ms Delia: Wow, that’s amazing.
Ms Olivia: Do you think part of it is because it’s so naughty and so taboo that if a guy is into erotic humiliation, that this just gets the, OMG I’m being made to suck cock humiliation thing going?
Ms Delia: Oh, I definitely think so. I think that that is a big part of that experience for men and the erotic humiliation being made to suck is just that hot button that once it’s pressed, there’s no coming back from that. It’s stuck with you.
Ms Olivia: Absolutely. And I do want to point out that it doesn’t necessarily always mean humiliation.
Michael’s cock sucking doesn’t have anything to do with erotic humiliation.
Ms Delia: Very, very true. He’s just really into being quite a cocksucker. I love that about him.
Ms Olivia: Yes, it’s great.
So let’s go from cuckold to cocksucker now. We did a whole episode on your guide to the cuckold fetish and one of the things that you brought up that I absolutely loved was about the debate of should cuckolds suck cock.
Ms Delia: It really is that question: should a cuckold suck cock? It’s a debate.
Some cuckolds really want to have a lot to do with cock and they think that they should fluff and clean off his cock and all kinds of things like that. Other cuckolds are just into their wife being the Hot Wife and experiencing the cuckolding from a distance where they would never interact with that cock and never have the ability to be a cocksucker for the wife.
Ms Olivia: One of the things that I love about cuckolding is that the wife or her bull or both of them can be the Alpha.
Do you like watching cock sucker porn?
Mistress likes cocksucking porn
Ms Delia: Oh my God, I love watching cocksucker porn.
There is something about the soft hardness of a cock sliding into a waiting and ready mouth. That is just that thing that grabs me in the stomach and Ooh, arouses me so much. I love watching someone give a blow job. Yes, I do.
Ms Olivia: You know, one of the wicked ones is sort of setting him up to be an accidental cock sucker.
You know, it’s sort of like that old Brittany Spears song. Oops, I did it again.
Oops, I sucked a cock. Oops, I sucked a cock again!
There’s something so wicked about setting him up. In BDSM terms that’s really predicament play, right?
Ms Delia: Oh yes it is. He might be unsure about it, but you can get him to that point where he is ready to do anything for you and will suck that cock for you.
Ms Olivia: This is also a way for a Mistress, a Femdom, a female partner to kind of get him to come to terms and accept his own bisexuality.
I think a lot of people are more bisexual than perhaps they want to admit.
One caller said that he went back and forth. He would say to himself, “I need to do this, I need to try this.” And then all of these fears would be there and he’d think: “No, I don’t want to do that.” Back and forth: “You’re going to have sex with the guy. No. You’re going to suck a guy’s cock. No, I’m not gay. But I need to do this. I need to try this. I want to try this.”
Ms Olivia: Coerced Cocksucking can begin to break through that fear and resistance.
Ms Delia: I absolutely agree with that. Just having a Mistress to hold your hand and guide you and even coerce you into cocksucking can really help you to accept that this is something that you would really like. Even if you don’t think that you would or it never even occurred to you to try it.
Ms Olivia: Once she helps you to break through that fear and resistance, Oh man, you are in for a whole new world of erotic pleasure.
Ms Olivia: Michael told me, “I thought I would like it, but then I had no idea. My sex life has been better, more exciting, and more fulfilling than ever.” And he left this comment on my blog a while ago. He said, “If someone had told me that my sex life in my fifties would be better than my sex life in the 20s, I would’ve never believed them.”
Ms Delia: I love that comment. And it’s so true. He has such an enthusiasm about cock sucking and the way that that comment reads to me, I can hear Michael’s voice saying that.
Ms Olivia: You and I are perfectionists. We’re geeks. I definitely research things. I study things. I learn about things that are important.
I learned to suck cock by going to gay men for cocksucker training. I asked my gay male friends, “Can you tell me how to suck a cock?” Did you do the same thing?
Ms Delia: You know, I did not do the same thing. I never went to a gay man for cock sucking advice. But I’ve heard that from you. I’ve also heard that from Mistress Daphne. Something about that. Maybe I’ll have to start looking and seeing.
I’ve usually approached cock sucking from just a girl guy, heterosexual kind of cock sucker way of being.
I’ve learned from the men whose cocks I’ve sucked what they like and I try to give them a nice blow job.
How many cock have you sucked?
Ms Olivia: And not to call you a slut or anything, you’ve sucked a lot of cocks. ~laughter~
I’ve sucked an enormous amount of cocks! I think it’s festive.
Ms Delia: Oh my goodness. Cocksucking is just a lot of fun. And there’s something about a way that the cock fields inside the mouth that is just so erotic; I love cocksucking.
Ms Olivia: So is it terrible that I said that you’ve sucked a lot of cocks?
Ms Delia: It’s not terrible that you said it. I mean, I know we’re playing back and forth. We’re joking a little bit. In reality, I think I’ve sucked about a dozen cocks in my life. Is that a lot?
Ms Olivia: Oh my God. Is that all?
Ms Delia: But I’ve given really good blow jobs. It’s not a lot is it? It’s just that’s just a few.
Ms Olivia: No, I’ll do that in a year.
Ms Delia: Well, you know what, we are different because I’m married to Jack, so I only suck his cock now.
Ms Olivia: And I’m polyamorous so I’ve got multiple partners. Then there are play partners. For example, going to a convention, you’re fooling around, down by the pool and you look and say, Oh, that’s nice. Yeah, yeah. I come to my cock sucker training naturally.
Ms Olivia: So let’s talk a little bit about teaching a straight man to suck cock. A lot of straight men will just go down on the cock and then just in and out, in and out with no foreplay. You kind of have to slow him down and show him how to suck a cock. How do you do it?
Ms Delia: Well, I like to think about cock sucking where everything kind of comes into play from the first moment where you kiss the tip of the cock and then your lips part and the head of that cock starts to slide between those lips.
I love to guide a man, to tell him what to do with his tongue, how to suck in his cheeks, how much actual suction in the mouth to apply.
I just really take cocksucker training step-by-step beginning to those first touches to all the tongue licks and swirls. Even the combo with the hand wrapped around the base of the shaft of that cock while you are sucking it. Sometimes the really big cock and they need a little combo all the way to the end to the cum.
The sissy cocksucker
Ms Olivia: Some of the people that really do really well with cock sucking training of course are the sissy cuckold.
So when you have someone and you turn him into a cuckold, then decide to make him a sissy and then, well you make him a cocksucker.
I love sissy cocksuckers. I think they’re fabulous. I give them assignments. I have them report the results of their sissy cocksucking assignment and experience. I think that I enjoy their cock sucking as much as they do. Do you like sissy cocksuckers?
Ms Delia: I absolutely love sissy cocksuckers and let me tell you, I will even take sissies who don’t think they want to suck cock and I would probably coerce them into cock sucking with a dildo.
I would start them slow and just experience everything with them because I know not all sissies suck cock but I actually think most sissies should suck cock.
So I am a big fan of sissy cocksuckers.
Does sucking a strapon or a dildo count as cock sucking training?
Ms Olivia: You know what? You bring up a really good point because a sissy doesn’t have to suck a real cock for me to be happy but a sissy needs to suck a strap on or a dildo as you said.
And I really like the dildo that has the suction cup on it. So you put them the suction cup on a mirror, and the sissy gets all dressed up with the eyelashes, makeup and hair and the cocksucker red lipstick and the cute little baby doll or the bra and panties and then he leans forward, opens up those sissy eyes and goes looking at that sissy in the mirror sucking cock.
Ms Delia: Oh, I have actually written a blog on my feminization blog exactly about the sissy cocksucking mirror. That is an amazing thing to do.
And you know, sissies, absolutely love that kind of visual where they can see themselves and it’s taboo, but it’s not really, really taboo or so naughty when they’re sucking a real cock, but it looks like they are and they can see themselves in that mirror, their mouths, their faces, that back and forth. It’s really incredible.
Ms Olivia: It’s also a way to have the experience of having someone there and watching you.
So Michael is not a sissy, not a cross dresser at all. But when he started sucking cock in in real life and moved it from fantasy to real life, I said, you need to tell your girlfriend that you want to explore this. And so he did.
He said that his girlfriend is now awesome with the whole thing. At first she was nervous. She was nervous because she didn’t know: Oh, does this mean you’re gay? Does this mean you’re going to leave me?
No, it didn’t mean any of that. And now he says he loves that she’s fully aware of what he’s doing, but he’s not gay. He’s not gonna leave her, but he is enjoying this aspect.
But not everybody has a wife or a girlfriend who is okay with that. A lot of people don’t want her to know that he’s sucking cock.
Hiding cock sucking desires
Ms Delia: Right. They’re sucking cock in secret because they have to keep that a secret or it might ruin their relationship. Exactly.
Ms Olivia: Wasn’t there a thing several years ago when it was like, “Oh, he’s a cocksucker on the down-low?”
Ms Delia: Oh yes, there was. I was very interested in that because if you think about it, the man cave, guys getting together to watch sports and there was a lot of cock sucking on the down low going on. They would turn these nights at Steve’s house to come together and people would suck each other’s cocks. It was really talked about a lot. I was fascinated with it. There are lots of stories about a bi or gay man teaching a straight man to suck cock.
Ms Olivia: Me too because that’s one of the reasons why people call us. Here’s the thing, don’t blow up your entire life.
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Ms Olivia: now we touched on sissy cock suckers a little bit. Delia, I think we should do an entire podcast on sissy cocksuckers.
Ms Delia: Oh, I agree. We did give sissy cocksuckers a nod, but really exploring that would be amazing for a full podcast.
Ms Olivia: Let me give a shout out to Delia’s feminization blog: FemFabulous.
Sissies, look forward to your special sissy podcast.
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Ms Delia: This was such a fun topic to discuss. Thank you all for joining us today on The Weekly Hot Spot.
Ms Olivia: Happy sucking!